Saturday, December 3, 2016

A Partnership Model

An Enneagram style Six leader and her team met to define a leadership model reflecting their values as supporters of abused women. They made explicit the characteristics of a traditional power-based system, contrasted with their own vision of an equality-based system -- a true partnership:

Power-Based Systems
(control behavior)*
Don't share feelings 
Don't take a stand
Don't accept criticism
Don't listen to others
Don't depend on others
Don't admit mistakes
Cover up skill deficiencies 
    (or fear of them)
Break promises/agreements
Withhold information
Equality-Based Systems
(resilience, harmony, meaning)
Be self-disclosing 
State opinions openly
Share accountability for problems
Acknowledge what others say, feel
Give importance to all agendas
Admit mistakes, fears, not knowing
Be consistent, honor agreements
Give time to process: 
   - Descriptive feedback
   - "I" statements

*"Control is a form of addition, used to deny our fears."
See also Riane Eisler's Partnership Politics ("The partnership and domination systems not only give us names for different ways of relating but also explain what lies behind these differences.")

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